In my study of this subject I've come to many conclusions. Everyday I hear a woman stress the need for a real man! If your a female and your definition of a real man consist of some guy paying the bills, fixing your cars, handling physical altercations,etc., then you are sadly mistaken. If you are a male and your definition consist of being in control of everything, and everyone bowing to your will or violence will ensue, then your sadly mistaken.
A man is defined by several different things. I believe you cannot truly judge who is a ''man'' or ''woman'' until later in life because you are only as good as what you have come up against. The decisions YOU made in life. The actions YOU took in times of peace and war. Did you stand against adversity? Did you learn from your own mistakes? Where you a student, as well as, a teacher in life?
We as a whole must shape the ''man''. Women, instead of always complaining, take action. Teach the man you love proper ways to be a man, as you see it! Everybody is different. Tell your man what you want but have the patients to work at it. Nothing happens overnight! Be fair, equal, and respectful. This means as a unit you AND him pay bills, raise the children, and make life decisions. Most important women, as much respect as you demand should be given. Men, we must listen to our women more, and not just hear them! We need to realize we cannot control anything completely but ourselves. Pick and choose your battles. Not physically but mentally. Be calm and rational. Admit when your wrong, but don't keep making the same mistakes. Make a conscious assessment of your faults and short comings. Work on your weaknesses. Find truth in your heart. Have faith in yourself and your abilities. Strive everyday to improve!
Nobody is perfect, so don't be afraid to teach the youth around you. Teach them from your experiences, good and bad. If men and women do this and other positive things, there will be an abundance of GOOD MEN!!